I got into my car, scrolled through the many podcasts my phone automatically downloads, and began to decide on what I was going to listen to on my drive. The newest episode from Girls Night With Stephanie Mae Wilson showed up on my recent downloads, so I immediately clicked on the info. Jordan Dooley, one of my favorite bloggers and speakers, was featured in that week’s episode. I didn’t even need to take a second glance to know that was the podcast that would be taking up my time on my drive.
The girls began to talk and discuss normal girl things like what they are loving right now, what they do, and how God is speaking to them. Then they began to speak on the subject of comparison. If I wasn’t instantly sucked into this podcast before, now I was for sure. Comparison is something that I struggle with all the time, so instantly I began to feel God wanting to speak to me through this podcast. I knew that he was trying to reveal to me something that I hadn’t been completely honest with myself about.
Comparison can run deep inside each of us, and if we aren’t careful, can quickly start to take over our thoughts. Comparison can creep into our minds and dig a little hole to fill our heads with reminders each day of who we are not and how our life isn’t as great as someone else’s. Eventually, without even realizing it, our identity will begin to revolve around this one word, comparison.
Lately, I have found myself in a season in which comparison has been a genuine struggle. Before we moved to California, comparison wasn’t really something that I struggled with. I would occasionally compare myself to some other girl, but nothing of major significance. But recently, I have found myself in a pit of comparison more times than I would like to admit. After moving to California, I became more insecure and started to compare myself to everyone all the time: the girls who are so outgoing, they instantly make a connection with everyone they meet, the friends who get pregnant and now have THE cutest babies I have EVER seen, the awesome bloggers who post amazing photos on their Instagram streams, always in the same color scheme, minimal, and cute. I often find myself in a mindset of comparison when I come across any girl that fits one of these molds.
Here is the deal about comparison:
Comparison is a thief.
Comparison steals joy and life.
When comparison strikes, it does not look back to assess the damage.
“A flower does not think of competing to the flower next to it, it just blooms.” I love this quote. It paints such a beautiful picture of how we are created to live our life. Flowers are created to one do one thing and that is to bloom, to be unique. Each flower may bloom the same, but when you look closely, you can see how each one has different cuts and bends. Roses may all grow and look the same from afar, but up close each one has its own touch to it.
We are each our own flowers, growing and sprouting every day in different ways. We each bloom in our own time. We each have our own look, personalities, and abilities and that is the way God intended us to live, move, and be.
God doesn’t look at us and wish we were all alike, or wish that we all had the same creativity, fashion sense, or perfect Instagrams. We are all created differently in God’s kingdom, and you know what? He LOVES it that way. We are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14)! We were created differently for a reason, and it’s time we stop comparing every little thing about ourselves to others we wish we so desperately could be.
The Bible says in Galatians 1:10,
“Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.”
You were not created to please others. You were not created to compare yourself to others. You were not created to try and form yourself into someone God did not create you to be.
You were created to be you, and no one else.
You were created to live a full life knowing you were wonderfully made.
Be you, not the girl who you wish so badly you could be. God did not create us to be copies. We are each created in our own beauty within Him. We were created to be originals, so don’t waste your time trying to be a copy.